Monday, December 23, 2013

A little story about four people

(I didn't write this, so I won't take credit. Just passing this along...)

This is a little story about four people named:

Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, and Nobody.

There was an important job to be done and Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it.

Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it.

Somebody got angry about that because it was Everybody's job.

Everybody thought that Anybody could do it, but Nobody realized that Everybody wouldn't do it.

It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody could have done.

More of the story - Get off your butt and DO something!

Don't assume that someone else will...

Monday, November 18, 2013

Sunday Times Leader article Nov. 17, 2013

Yesterday I was among a few community members interviewed regarding the rise in violent activity in Wilkes-Barre. 

Here is the article:

Sunday, October 27, 2013

Random Act of Kindness

Try this...

Today, while you're out and about during your daily adventures, display a Random Act of Kindness for someone you don't know. That's it, just display a single act of random kindness for someone you don't know, yet. If this is something you already do then display an additional act of kindness, or a third or a fourth. This act of goodness can be done anywhere and for anyone that you don't already know. Maybe it will be for an unknown co-worker or a stranger at the local grocery store. Maybe you'll choose to be kind to someone during a brief encounter at the gas station or coffee house, it's completely up to you. Maybe you won't even set out to do this act at a particular time and you'll recognize it mid-act or maybe you won't even realize it until the person acknowledges the kindness with an appreciative "thank you." Maybe you'll even surprise yourself with how many acts of kindness you can show in a single day.

See what happens and feel free to comment.

Friday, October 18, 2013

The Moment

We celebrate our triumphs and successes by building ornate monuments, commissioning beautiful portraits, and taking timeless photographs. It is important to us that we remember these milestones. Those around us often use these trophies to put merit to our accomplishments. As others may only remember the ceremony and tend to focus solely on the spoils, let us remember the trials and tribulations faced along the way and appreciate our true crowning achievements. It was these events that proved our strength, molded our willpower, and solidified our determination to achieve excellence.

In these moments we recognized our own greatness.

Thursday, October 17, 2013

Many thanks to the Magnolia Project staff and girls

This evening I had the opportunity to speak to the staff and a few of the girls from the Hazleton Chapter of the Magnolia Project, a group organized by Volunteers of America. It was very empowering and the staff was extremely warm and an overall wonderful group of women.

My sincerest thanks goes out to the staff for welcoming me tonight.

If you know a young woman who may be interested in learning leadership skills and being a positive member of the community, I highly recommend becoming involved in this group.

You can visit their FB page here for more information.
Volunteers of America - Magnolia Project

Sunday, October 13, 2013

Citizens' Voice interview

I'd like to thank the Citizens' Voice (especially Cecilia B. for write-up and Kristen G. for referral) for the interview in today's paper. The feature is referring to upcoming presentations Empower Yourself Now! and Essential Tools for the Professional Mind.

Click to read:
Citizens's Voice writeup

Saturday, October 12, 2013

Be Great

Be Great by Your standards. 
Inspire others to be Great by theirs. 

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Are you the person...

Are you the person that you would like to meet walking down the street?

Friday, September 13, 2013

Keeping Good Company

How important is the company we keep?
How influential is the company we keep?
Does our company consist of positive, motivated, encouraging, and supportive individuals, or mostly the opposite?

Lets consider this simple statement:

"At least I'm not the only one..."

How many times have we heard this before?
How many times have we used this, possibly as a crutch or as a cheap reassurance, to excuse something that we may not normally approve of or are disappointed with in terms of a situational outcome?
Are we in turn teaching ourselves to accept disappointment simply because others near us have also had similar results?
What if we use this simple phrase repeatedly, so that by accepting and excusing disappointment we then begin to expect disappointment?
What if those people closest to us also use this statement on a regular basis?
Does this acceptance, excusing, and expectation of disappointment begin to make its way around a group of people like the time popular game "Hot Potato" with each person looking forward to catching the burning bundle of misfortune only to pass it off to the next person in line and then eagerly await the come around?

We've all heard the old saying, "Misery loves company."
I'm beginning to think that the two quotes are related and they grab hold like that random person who shows up at the party, never having anything positive to say but still feels the need to talk to everyone and rant on and on about their twisted worldly views.

Is there sound reasoning behind the explanation, "well I vented to my buddy yesterday, so now today I'll listen to my buddy vent because we’re friends and that's what friends do," and at what stage does venting become complaining? Sure venting can be helpful to simply clear the air or to consider things from a new perspective, but if we are venting about every little thing and in turn listening to our closest companions vent about all of their mundane woes then around and around it goes like playing hot potato.  

I think being sympathetic or empathetic of a friend's troubles should certainly stop at a certain point. Now I'm not saying to be apathetic when a friend is in need of a caring listener and sage advice, but be mindful after the friendly therapeutic session so as not to take that burden onto your own back and especially be careful so as not to accept those negative emotions leading to a jaded worldview based on someone else's troubles.

What do you think? What are your thoughts on the statements made and the many questions asked? These are simply my thoughts and ideas based on my own observations and experience. You may or may not agree with me, but if I’ve made you think or maybe even re-think then I’ve done what I set out to do.

How we lead our lives is by our own choosing. We can control our behaviors. We can choose to act in certain ways. We can choose to accept specific ideas and beliefs. We can choose to make the decisions that best serve our interests and compliment our lives. We can choose to be happy, healthy, and enjoy the fruits of our labor to the fullest extent of our own individual desire. We can choose to manifest the greatest of dreams and turn them into the most amazing reality. And, we can choose to surround ourselves with other like-minded and wonderful people.

The point that I’m trying to make is for You the reader to be aware of the company you keep. Make sure those closest to you are equally positive and you are encouraging each other to be better each and every day. True friends and family encourage the other members to excel in life and achieve excellence. Think of it like this, if you choose to host a covered dish picnic and you invited all of the people that are special in your life, what would each of those people bring to the picnic? What would you bring?

Surround yourself with amazing people and your “picnic” will be one of delightful feasting and magnificent company.

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Leap of Faith

Sometimes taking a leap of faith can be scary and the only assurance we have to hold on to is trusting in our own abilities to land with our feet beneath us.

Friday, August 2, 2013

Yes, you have 15 minutes

What do you want to do this weekend? It's Friday, so simply take a few minutes to decide. You can surely spare a commercial break from your regularly scheduled workday...right?

Spend at least 10 minutes today deciding what amazing thing you want to do this weekend and an additional 5 minutes to begin making the general preparations. The details will come throughout the remainder of the day. 

Maybe you'll decide to take a mini vacation or a day trip somewhere. Maybe you'll treat yourself to a simple pleasure you've been looking forward to. Maybe you'll reconnect with friends that you haven't seen in a while. Maybe you'll sit quietly in the park or take a hike to enjoy Mother Nature. What is it that you want to do? How will you decide to treat yourself to something special? 

In 15 minutes how will you decide to enjoy your weekend?

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

What If...

What if you were willing to spend less time telling people what you know and you invested more time deciding what you wanted to learn... What if?

Friday, July 19, 2013

How the Learning State kept me out of harm's way...and then some

This morning while driving to work I was listening to a training CD from the NLP Master Practitioner series as presented by Drs. Tad and Adriana James. One of the track selections was based on the Learning State, so I figured there was no better time to put myself into the state during my daily commute. I think it's important to note that this portion of the road was a 2-lane oneway stretch. During one particular part Dr. Adriana repeatedly stated "Stop, Look, and Listen" about 2-3x in a row and my Unconscious Mind responded accordingly. I was approaching a recently turned yellow traffic light and I was about to continue through to make the light but my UM chose to listen to Dr. Adriana's statement of "Stop..." and I began slowing down (rather than speeding up as I normally would have done). Suddenly an unsuspecting driver mistakingly turned into my lane going the wrong way and because my UM chose to slow down I was able to avoid a very near head-on collision. It wasn't until a few seconds later that the potential disastrous situation actually dawned on me.

Score 1 point for Learning State.

During my commute home my UM again responded to the CD and my surroundings. By this time I had finished listening to the CD and decided to re-listen to the section on Metaphors. One of the stories had to do with a shepherd and his sheep. Once again my UM responded to hearing the word "flock" over and over because from out of my peripheral vision I noticed something familiar. I glanced to the left and noticed an office building named after someone whose last name was "Flock." As I laughed to myself I casually swept my focus from my left side back to the center of the road and upon doing so I noticed a police vehicle hiding two doors down between a building and some bushes. Now, haha, I'm not going to say anything incriminating or advocate speeding but I may or may not have been exceeding the preferred speed limit. Yes, I slowed down.

Score another point for Learning State

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Arriving vs Arriving Happily

If you want to arrive, know your destination. If you want to arrive happily, enjoy the journey

Monday, July 15, 2013


"Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm"
- Sir Winston Churchill 

Sunday, July 14, 2013

Bruce Lee


Through the clouds

Above the clouds


Welcome to my blog. I will be posting inspirational words, photos, ideas, and anything that seems to be on my mind that might be helpful, thought provoking and/or simply enjoyable for others.

I have 7+ years experience working in mental health, specifically children's mental and behavioral health and I recently starting my own coaching and consulting business. I am a student of The Tad James Co., and certified in Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Time Line Therapy®, and Hypnotherapy.

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