Monday, September 15, 2014

The Life You Want

Before I begin, please consider this question. What do you want in life? What do you truly want? So if you haven't done so already, I'd like you to ask yourself, "What do I want?"
As a coach I have the opportunity to talk with many people and I always learn some fascinating details about their lives, hopes, dreams, passions, and personal aspects that mean the most to them. Whether a professional coaching session or friendly discussion at a nearby cafe, I'm interested to discover what people want in their lives and for themselves. Not only what they want, but what it is that they truly want in life and especially what are they doing to achieve their goal.
As a former therapist I've known this to be true for some time and it was reaffirmed and cemented having attended some wonderful trainings with the Tad James Co. school of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). How is it that some people can create wonderful change and live a more fulfilling life, or set monumental goals for themselves and achieve them in a seemingly effortless way? On the contrary, how is it that some people can boldly announce, "I've had enough, I'm going to make a change!" yet they have great difficulty in attaining their desired outcome and new way of living.
Now please consider this idea. There is a difference between someone who wants to change/achieve a goal and someone who wants to want change/achieve a goal. In the former, the individual knows what it is they truly want and they are motivated to achieve their goal. Regardless of whether or not the entire path has been clearly defined, the person has decided to take action and is moving towards the goal. In the latter, the person is taking a limited or conditional amount of action, if at all.
Here's a fun example to better explain the point. I love Star Wars and I couldn't be more excited for the release of SW Episode 7 next year. I've also always had an interest in acting or performing in general and it would be an experience of a lifetime to have a role in a Star Wars film. While I'm strong in the Force regarding my love and knowledge of the Star Wars universe, my resume is limited to a few plays in high school and college and absolutely no film experience whatsoever. I don't have an agent nor am I active in my local independent film community. So even though in my heart of hearts I know that I would be an amazing Jedi Knight, unless I win a contest or run into George Lucas on the street and perform a Jedi mind trick, I think it's unfortunately safe to say that my chances of being in the film are slim.
Back to the point and to conclude this piece. I believe all people have the power to create the most wonderful life for themselves, whether change work, goal setting, or any other topic on a limitless list of possibilities. We all have the same 24 hours in a day. We all have the same opportunities in life. The universe doesn't grant special privilege to someone over another. In the beginning of this post, I asked you to ask yourself what you wanted. So lets do this exercise again. Ask yourself, "What do I want?" and "What am I willing to do in order to get it?!"
Wishing you the best my friend and thank you for reading.
Know Your Path | Enjoy Your Journey
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Friday, September 5, 2014

YOLO? No, No!

I've touched upon this many times in the past while speaking with teens but I think it also applies to adults as well.

The statement You Only Live Once (YOLO, in pop culture) has been made popular to excuse sometimes foolish, irresponsible, or self destructive behaviors. 

Ex.
- "I'm going to stay out late partying tonight and skip school/work tomorrow. YOLO!"

- Or, making an impulsive and life changing  decision without considering the consequences. 

- Or even, engaging in unsafe or self destructive behaviors because, for whatever reason, in the moment of decision the consequences are of little importance. 

*I didn't give examples for the 2nd and 3rd reference because I'm sure the reader would have applied a situation that was/is personal in some way, and making a greater impact. 

On the contrary, this statement could certainly be used for the positive, although in my experience I've observed it being used more regarding the former. (It's also possible that those people using it in the previous situations were more vocal and boisterous with announcing the "reason" for their actions) Using this in the positive can also take many forms. 

Ex.
- "I'm going to go back to school/training to better myself and advance my career!"

- "I'm going to go skydiving / hiking across the state / on a once in a lifetime adventure, etc. 

- "I will start the business of my dreams and become the successful entrepreneur I've always wanted to be!"

In either case, and the point of this piece is the point I started off with. The problem with thinking that you only live once is that it couldn't be further from the truth. In fact, it's wrong if you choose to accept this perspective. It's wrong because you don't live only once, You Live Every Single Day! And every day you have the opportunity to do great things, make decisions that serve your higher purpose, and experience the most exhilarating life. How do you feel about that? Each day you have the chance to make something magnificent happen. Each of us has the same 24 hours in the day to live a life of excellence. Your own life of excellence by your own standards, desires, and dreams. And you know what? If in the past you chose a certain behavior or made a decision that no longer serves you and your purpose today - CHANGE IT! Just because you made a certain choice once or twice or however many times in the past, doesn't mean you have to continue making that same choice over and over. This isn't the movie Groundhog Day. We all rallied behind Bill Murray as he raced around town helping people, turning wrongs to rights, and ultimately making a perfect day for himself (and of course finally getting the girl). Now I mentioned this movie to add a little humor to the topic because if you're like me, you've probably referenced the movie at least once in conversation. But seriously, you have the opportunity each day to live the life you want. Make great decisions. Make new choices that serve the person you are today and want to be in the future. Create the future you truly want and deserve. 

Each day is yours to create as you choose. 

"Whether you think you can, or you think you can't - you're right"
                                           - Henry Ford





  

Monday, September 1, 2014

Lotus Pug Yoga and Wellness Center - Live Music Class f/ Steve Werner

Lotus Pug Yoga and Wellness Center hosts a variety of classes and workshops as well as offering coaching and holistic services from select local practitioners.

One of its many classes is the Live Music Flow class which happens on Sunday evenings at 6pm. The class has featured a diverse lineup of musicians and DJ's offering variety of unique styles for the Lotus Pug yogis practice. Recently local musician and friend Steve Werner offered a new sound for our yogis by playing the handpan.

Here is a video from last week's class (Aug. 24, 2014).

Be sure to check out the class schedule for regular classes, workshops, special events, and field trips!

And please "like" Steve Werner's Music here.