Before I begin, please consider this question. What do you want in life? What do you truly want? So if you haven't done so already, I'd like you to ask yourself, "What do I want?"
As a coach I have the opportunity to talk with many people and I always learn some fascinating details about their lives, hopes, dreams, passions, and personal aspects that mean the most to them. Whether a professional coaching session or friendly discussion at a nearby cafe, I'm interested to discover what people want in their lives and for themselves. Not only what they want, but what it is that they truly want in life and especially what are they doing to achieve their goal.
As a former therapist I've known this to be true for some time and it was reaffirmed and cemented having attended some wonderful trainings with the Tad James Co. school of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). How is it that some people can create wonderful change and live a more fulfilling life, or set monumental goals for themselves and achieve them in a seemingly effortless way? On the contrary, how is it that some people can boldly announce, "I've had enough, I'm going to make a change!" yet they have great difficulty in attaining their desired outcome and new way of living.
Now please consider this idea. There is a difference between someone who wants to change/achieve a goal and someone who wants to want change/achieve a goal. In the former, the individual knows what it is they truly want and they are motivated to achieve their goal. Regardless of whether or not the entire path has been clearly defined, the person has decided to take action and is moving towards the goal. In the latter, the person is taking a limited or conditional amount of action, if at all.
Here's a fun example to better explain the point. I love Star Wars and I couldn't be more excited for the release of SW Episode 7 next year. I've also always had an interest in acting or performing in general and it would be an experience of a lifetime to have a role in a Star Wars film. While I'm strong in the Force regarding my love and knowledge of the Star Wars universe, my resume is limited to a few plays in high school and college and absolutely no film experience whatsoever. I don't have an agent nor am I active in my local independent film community. So even though in my heart of hearts I know that I would be an amazing Jedi Knight, unless I win a contest or run into George Lucas on the street and perform a Jedi mind trick, I think it's unfortunately safe to say that my chances of being in the film are slim.
Back to the point and to conclude this piece. I believe all people have the power to create the most wonderful life for themselves, whether change work, goal setting, or any other topic on a limitless list of possibilities. We all have the same 24 hours in a day. We all have the same opportunities in life. The universe doesn't grant special privilege to someone over another. In the beginning of this post, I asked you to ask yourself what you wanted. So lets do this exercise again. Ask yourself, "What do I want?" and "What am I willing to do in order to get it?!"
Wishing you the best my friend and thank you for reading.