Sunday, July 19, 2015
Check out this interview from the "Take Action Get Profits" Radio Show with host Michele Scism, found on Tough Talk Radio Network.
Michele is a leading authority on business growth and online marketing and the Founder of DecisiveMinds.com. Her clients call her "The 6 Figure Results Lady" because as a business strategist she uses her signature "Take Action Get Profits" system to help entrepreneurs turn their passion into expert status and then profits. She is an international speaker, radio host, and author.
In this show, you'll learn:
- To take ownership and responsibility in your business
- How to run programs that produce results
- How NLP Coaching can be used in business
- Effective communication with self and career
Listen to Take Action Get Profits interview here
My segment begins at minute marker 33:17
Wednesday, July 15, 2015
Greetings friends! My apologies for the recent absence; as I’m sure you can relate, it’s been an eventful couple of weeks. If you know me personally or follow me on social media then you know that my book, The Change – Insights Into Self-Empowerment, was just released and I’ve been busy scheduling speaking engagements, book signings, and other public events.
The Change is the fastest growing book series in the world focusing on self-empowerment, personal development, and life transformation. The series is co-founded by Jim Britt and Jim Lutes, and features leaders and experts from around the globe offering thought provoking insights to help the reader create positive changes in his/her life.
Now that you’re caught up on the life and times of Rich Perry, let’s discuss some changes that have been happening in the world around us. For one, unless you’ve been trapped under a rock these last few weeks, you may have noticed that social media became a little more colorful in support of the Supreme Court legalizing gay marriage. People around the nation, especially those in the gay and lesbian community, proudly displayed rainbow flags, apps, and images supporting the idea that maybe we are one step closer to equality for all people.
Although this decision ushered in a change of times and provided a positive opportunity for many to celebrate, in our modern society of soap-box heroes and victims with such soft skin that they are offended by everything under (and including) the sun, it unfortunately allows just another excuse for social media vigilantes and bored activist groups to discriminate a person and fight over something that doesn’t have to do with them. As a student of human nature, yes my degree is in psychology, but I’m still puzzled by those people who make it their business to tell others how they should live their life. More than that, I’m amazed to the degree that some people cry offense by another person’s behavior. Honestly, how does someone choose to let another person’s beliefs, preferences, and tastes bother them?
When I hear these stories of those people so easily offended by someone else’s lifestyle, I’m reminded of The Butter Battle Book, by Dr. Seuss. This is a great book by the way, and it was one of our go-to stories when I worked in children’s mental and behavioral health and especially during the agency’s summer camp program. While the book itself is written as an anti-war story and often viewed as a parable about the arms race (it was written during the Cold War era), it has a very simple story line that can be transferred to multiple scenarios. In summary, the book focuses on two cultures that are separated by a wall, the Yooks (wearing blue clothes) and the Zooks (in orange) who wage war on each other due to a dispute on the correct way to eat buttered bread. You see the Yooks prefer to eat their bread with the butter-side up, while the Zooks prefer to eat their bread with the butter-side down.
This is a fantastic story. If you’ve never read it, or if it’s been a few years, then I highly recommend checking it out. You can also watch the animated film below. Also, if by some chance you think that this is just a kid’s story, you’re mistaken. In my professional coaching and training, I have referenced this story many times with clients because it provides a simple and clear picture of how we should and shouldn’t choose to be influenced by another person’s behavior and views on life.
As this column deals with topics relating to mind and body, I would like to assume that my regular readership consists of some fairly level minded individuals who may not necessarily jump to full scale wars or engage in petty internet drama, so let’s bring it down from the overly dramatic side of the spectrum for a moment. How can we take this story and apply it to our daily living? Well, have you ever allowed the beliefs, preferences, and personal tastes of someone else have a (negative) influence on your life? If yes, do you still allow this to happen?
*Please note, that I’m NOT talking about anything that could pose as a threat or harm another person. I think we can agree that any rational person would and should intervene a behavior or act that threatens the safety and well-being of someone else.
The beliefs, preferences, and personal tastes I’m talking about here include but are not limited to a person’s: religious and spiritual practices, sexual preference, political affiliation, as well as lifestyle choices such as music, dress and appearance, tattoos and piercings, etc.
Here are a few simple questions to consider:
Do you allow a person’s difference in opinion to influence or affect you in any way?
Are you offended by the opinions/preferences of others? If so, do you feel the need to push your views upon them and prove that your viewpoint is the right way of thinking?
Do you have the ability to accept all people you meet equally?
Do you judge others based on affiliations or lifestyle choices?
To tie together this theme of acceptance and understanding of others, check out this cool social experiment conducted by Coca-Cola.
I really liked this video and I think it speaks volumes on how we should view and treat other people. How peaceful could life be if ideals like respect, appreciation, and acceptance of others were practiced? How many arguments could be avoided if we encouraged discussion and understanding? And if you allow the behaviors, preferences, and personal tastes of someone else affect your life, how much more relaxing could your day be if you could just let it go and focus your attention on the things that were truly important to you and your personal fulfillment?
I hope you enjoyed this week’s article. If you have any comments or questions please message me directly at Rich@thepathofme.com
As always, thanks for reading and be excellent!
Today’s Strength and Focus will be on the idea and practice of paying it forward. Perhaps you remember the film Pay It Forward (2000) starring Kevin Spacey, Helen Hunt, and Haley Joel Osment. In the movie, the young character Trevor McKinney (Osment) is given an assignment by his teacher Mr. Simonet (Spacey): To think of something that will change the world and put it into action. McKinney decides to “pay forward,” rather than paying back, good deeds to three people during which he explains his actions and encourages the recipients to pay forward the random act of kindness unto three new individuals. As more people are impacted and continue to pass actions of generosity and kindness the circle of influence grows much bigger than the middle school student could have ever imagined.
While the movie centers on three new acts of kindness, the idea of paying forward a good deed has been mentioned throughout the ages and even goes back to ancient times. More importantly, although the practice contains the word pay, it doesn’t necessarily require a monetary exchange. While some actions and deeds may involve money to some degree, it’s not a requirement. Many times these good deeds are simply that - good deeds. They can be simple and take many forms: a kind word to a co-worker, an act of generosity to a stranger, or sharing a meal with someone less fortunate.
I recently had the opportunity to pay it forward and it was a truly humbling experience. Before telling this story, I would like to note that it is not my intention to seek attention or receive praise. In fact, this event happened weeks ago and I decided that posting it on social media would only cheapen the action because I believe that good deeds should be done for the sake of the deed itself and for the benefit of the recipient alone; essentially we should give to give rather than giving to receive. Today however, I decided to briefly tell this story in hopes that it may inspire you to do something nice for someone else.
As you may know, a few months ago I was invited to be a co-author in THE CHANGE book series, co-produced by Jim Britt and Jim Lutes and featuring contributing authors from around the globe. Since the release of THE CHANGE book #5 (the book my chapter is in), I’ve been busy setting up interviews, presentations, and book signings.
On this particular day, I was exiting a meeting from Barnes & Noble (at Arena Hub Plaza) and passed a gentleman in the foyer asking an employee about a nearby place to eat. At the time I didn’t think much of it so I continued to my car. For whatever reason I made the wrong turn leaving the parking lot and found myself taking the scenic route around the shopping center, which was when I noticed the man that I had just passed in the bookstore. Upon seeing him walking through the hot parking lot with a plastic bag in his hand, I finally snapped out of my self-imposed daze and remembered a few key words from the conversation I walked through moments earlier. The words: traveling, hungry, and cheap meal came back to me consciously and I was able to put 2 + 2 together. Pulling off the road I asked if I could help. The gentleman relayed his story and although I didn’t have much money in my wallet, I happened to have a customer appreciation card for Outback Steakhouse, which is right there in the shopping center across from Barnes & Noble. After explaining the card, we shook hands, and parted ways.
To be honest, I felt good but I didn’t feel great due to a nagging sensation that I should have done more. Though I was pressed for time, after a moment of back and forth deliberation I came to the conclusion that whatever self-important activities were in my calendar, they could easily be pushed back 30 minutes so I turned the car around and parked. Entering the restaurant, I approached the man and asked if I could join him for lunch. He seemed initially surprised but happily accepted and we sat at the bar to order our meals.
What started out as an impromptu 30-minute lunch ended up being a 2-hour conversation as he relayed his story of how he came to be on the road, where he was going, and the trials faced along the way. This man was extremely grateful, not just for the warm meal but also because of the conversation we shared; being a person of good nature himself, he regrettably stated that because he was traveling he might never get an opportunity to repay me. I told him that I didn’t want anything in return and asked if he knew about paying it forward. The man told me that he’d never heard of it, so I took the opportunity to explain. He later confided in me that earlier that morning he experienced feelings of hopelessness and was ready to give up but that this single act - a meal and friendly conversation - had lifted his spirits and rejuvenated him to continue his journey. After offering final assistance we parted ways.
Again, it is not my intention to take credit or be a hero because buying someone a meal is by no means heroic, it’s something that any good person would do for another. My sincere hope is that you find meaning in my story and realize that a simple act of generosity can go a long way and produce profound results. You can choose to pay it forward by whatever means are available, and remember it doesn’t even have to involve money. Offer to mow your elderly neighbors lawn. Give a compliment to a stranger. Donate a morning/evening to helping a community organization or charity. These are simple things that wouldn’t cost you a penny but could be invaluable to the recipient.
I encourage you to do something nice for someone else. Think about all the good things in your life, think about everything you have to be grateful for, and think of all the wonderful opportunities people have given to or shared with you. Let this be the source of inspiration and motivation to do good unto others. We don’t even have to suggest this as being a religious thing, it can simply be a human thing. Once you have your inspiration and motivation to help, now think of your many talents, skills, and abilities. This can be how you choose to serve someone, or maybe you’ll simply be presented with an opportunity to be a good person and help someone smile.
Thanks for reading and as always Be Excellent!