Thursday, June 23, 2016

Self-Talk: Yes, You Do Talk to Yourself (pt.1)

* This article is PART 1 of 3 and is taken from our forthcoming book, "Bankrolling Your Mind" which will be published later this summer.

Self-talk is described as the thoughts we think and the words we say to/about ourselves. Now if you’re thinking, “Bologna, I don’t talk to myself” – YES YOU DO! We all do and it’s perfectly natural. Stop and think for a moment. As you’re going about your day, thinking those thoughts and saying those words to and about yourself, what are you saying? What kind of message are you conveying?

Do you find yourself frequently thinking/saying things that are positive, serving, and moving you towards greatness like: I’m good enough, I can do this, and I deserve this or do you say things that are negative, destructive, and self-sabotaging like: I am no good, I don’t have enough skills, and I don’t deserve to have this dream? Essentially, are you your own coach and biggest fan cheering yourself towards victory or are you your own worst enemy beating yourself up and offering excuses as to why you can’t do things?

The reason this is so important and why you need to gain clarity on your self-talk early in our work together is because you need to know whose side you’re on. I’m going to say that again. YOU NEED TO KNOW WHOSE SIDE YOU’RE ON!

Think about someone you know who has spent thousands of dollars on personal development programs and wasted hundreds of hours on professional training but hasn’t gained much ground or made any significant changes in his/her business and life. It’s possible this person is new to the personal growth space, in which case, he/she has only spent a few hundred dollars buying a home program but most likely your friend is one of the many countless individuals who have dumped thousands of dollars to travel away from home for a multi-day event only to return with the exact same problems as when they left.

Sure the loud hypnotic chanting, repetitive affirmations, and super high-fives were empowering for a moment and the energy seemed to smother those problems but once the cheering settled and the person returned to the old and familiar environment then those same old and familiar issues began to resurface stronger than ever. You know it’s true. You’ve seen it happen to your friend and vividly remember the look of disappointment and sense of overall frustration while venting about those problems that just wouldn’t go away. How many people do you know that can lump themselves into this failed category of wasted money and time via broken promises? You’ve probably felt this sting yourself with certain products or programs in the past. You have, haven’t you? It hurts right?

But, how does this happen? Shouldn’t you expect to experience profound life changes after partaking in expensive seminars and retreats? Is it asking too much to anticipate those same results promised on the sales letter of costly programs? Is it wrong to assume the books should provide answers rather than raising more questions?

It’s also important to note that another root cause could be that a charlatan or knucklehead that clearly wasn’t worth his salt designed the seminar, program, or book but we’ll address that in a later chapter. Plus, in the Mastery section we’re going to show you how to align with real leaders, authority figures, and mentors so that you’re always learning from top professionals who act with integrity and have your best interest in mind.

For the sake of our current discussion let’s assume that the programs and books we’re considering are crafted by a well-intentioned adept so that we can examine how somebody can waste thousands of dollars and spend hundreds of hours on self-development but only experience disappointing stasis. Though these unwanted effects could stem from multiple root causes, in our experience one of the chief factors is that these people worked against the program. They beat themselves down rather than lifting themselves up. They looked for excuses of failure rather than reasons to succeed. And they doubted themselves and maintained limiting beliefs rather than creating and maintaining self-empowering beliefs.

* This article is PART 1 of 3 and is taken from our forthcoming book, "Bankrolling Your Mind" which will be published later this summer.


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